or a girl...
if your a guy...
heh, heh!!!
Have you ever wished you had a SPECIAL tool, a secret weapon, that would ensure you to win the competition with fellow single peers seeking to find their helpmate?!
To be THE ONE that they choose???
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I sure HAVE!!! If your reading this and saying Oh no, I'm NOT like that, GIRRRRL PULEEEEEZE... you can say whateverrrr you want...buuuuuuuut I'm just gonna be real today...AS I ALWAYS AM!!! ;) We ALL want our crush to choose us over our peer!
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WEEEEEEELLLLLLL, I DISCOVERED that SECRET TOOL!!! The ONE THING that can ENSURE you to ALWAYS win the competitive battle. There is SOMETHING you can do that WILL guarantee a WIN!!! Annnnnnnd being the AMAZING person that I am, I'm NOT going to keep this secret to MYSELF, I'm going to SHARE it with YOU ALL!!!
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Soooo listen up LADIES annnnnnnnnd ALL you GENTLEMEN that SECRETLY read my blog but don't want to admit it...Are you ready??? THIS IS MY SECRET TOOL...annnnd once I share it with you...your life will change...FOREVERRRR!!!! (Weeeeellll not really...buuuuut it IS some pretty AWESOME advice if I do say so myself!!!;)
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So waaaaaaaaay back in the day, I liked this certain Apostolic young man, I don't really know how to describe him except to say he was tall, dark and HANDSOME!!! He was soooo fun and cool to hang out with. Plus, to top all this off, he was like TOALLY annointed of God, which of course REALLY impressed me. I remember telling all the girls, "Like NOT only is he, the BEST LOOKIN guy in Pentecost, but he is annointed too!"
Well, I basically had like EVERYONE that was friends with this guy giving me info about him. One day I got the NEWS that he liked some other girl!!! I was soooooo BUMMED. I think for one day I let myself be all sad about it...I think I may have even shed a few tears...BUT as I thought about the incredible handsomeness of this guy, I KNEW there was NOOOOOO waaaaay I was ready to give up on him.
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Yes, yes competition!!! ;)
.The first thing I did was ask my friends WHAT this girl looked like. "So is she like REALLY pretty or what?!" I asked one of the girls that was really good friends with this guy. Now, my friend is pretty honest about these things and usually has VERY high standards for what she considers pretty, so I figured she would be like, No not really or something. BUT to my devastation, she was like, "She is BEAUTIFUL!!! She is very exotic looking, she is tall and slender, really elegant and graceful with the PERFECT figure and she has this really cool way of doing her hair, she has perfectly arched eybrows... AAAAAAAAAAuuuuuuuuuuuuggggggggghhhhh...she sounded just PERFECT...UGH!!! BUT I still wasn't ready to give up...I had to see a picture of her for myself to see if this girl REALLY was ALL THAT!!!
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FINALLY I got a hold of a picture of her AND much to my disapointment, SHE WAS BEAUTIFUL!!! She had these really exotic dark almond shaped brown eyes, light brown, curly hair that went to just below her shoulders, she had a a rich caramel skin coloring, a sweet little smile and yeah, and yes perfectly arched eyebrows, she was INDEED BEAUTIFUL!!!! I was like AW MAN!
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Plus I found out that she was getting some top-notch degree, she played the piano, sang, led choir, all this cool stuff. But I was like, WELL if this is the kind of girl he likes, then I am gonna try and be JUST like her!!! I figured I could learn how to do my hair just LIKE HERS! I could dress like her etc... but after a day I gave up that idea.
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I had to rethink my idea of competing with her, because I could never be like her. The clothes she wore wouldn't be flattering on me, plus they just wern't my style. I have no musical inclination or desire to lead the choir. I couldn't just go back to college to impress a guy, after five times in pre-algebra it had been time to move on with my life. Also, elegant, graceful and slender just aren't words that would ever describe me. I'm big, I have huge frame, huge feet, huge hands and I'm for sure not slender with the perfect figure, not that I think badly of myself, i'm just NOT going to be able to make myself look like this girl!!! I remember sitting on the couch at work and thinkin...MAN! She has dark brown eyes...mine are blue...no matter WHAT...I'll NEVER have dark BROWN eyes.
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I had to rethink my idea of competing with her, because I could never be like her. The clothes she wore wouldn't be flattering on me, plus they just wern't my style. I have no musical inclination or desire to lead the choir. I couldn't just go back to college to impress a guy, after five times in pre-algebra it had been time to move on with my life. Also, elegant, graceful and slender just aren't words that would ever describe me. I'm big, I have huge frame, huge feet, huge hands and I'm for sure not slender with the perfect figure, not that I think badly of myself, i'm just NOT going to be able to make myself look like this girl!!! I remember sitting on the couch at work and thinkin...MAN! She has dark brown eyes...mine are blue...no matter WHAT...I'll NEVER have dark BROWN eyes.
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Then all of the sudden, as I was sitting there...It hit me... HEEEEEEEEEY!!! I HAVE BLUE EYES!!! She'll NEVER have blue eyes!!! (I know, total BRAT thought, RIGHT?!;)Then I started thinking about ALL my attiributes that SHE would NEVER have...I was like Hmmmm...maybe I should start thinkin about this differently!!! Its not just WHAT she has that I'll NEVER have!!! Its WHAT I HAVE that SHE'LL NEVERRRR HAVE!!!
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I was sitting there at work, contemplating all my wonderfulness, it HIT mE!!! There was ONE thing I had that this girl could NEVER compete with me on. I knew, without a doubt I could beat this chick in this area, without even trying.
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Soooooooo as soooon as my friend Janelle, called me that day, while the baby I was watching was napping, I was like, "JANELLE!!! Guess what? I know HOW I can GET this guy. She was like HOW?! Sooooooo I'm like okaaaaaay well, I saw a picture of that chick and she is ACTUALLY really pretty!!! So Janelle is like, OH well I am SURE she is NOT as pretty as you. (Forever the loyal friend!) So I am like, no listen Janelle, she really IS beautiful and I mean she is tall and slender and come lets face it, WE KNOW I fo sho don't have the SLENDER thing going on...Janelle is just like, BUT Mary, you are BEAUTIFUL!!!(awwww)
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So I am like, I know, I know, I know, I KNOW...BUT juuuuuust listen... SO IS SHE!!! HOWEVERRRR, there is SOMETHING I have, that she can NEVER compete with me on...So Janelle thinking she was having a LIGHT bulb moment was like "Oooooh I KNOW, the Holy Ghost?!" I'm like, no, no, I'm not talking about that...she has the Holy Ghost TOO and is a REALLY GOOOOOD girl! Sooooo Janelle is like,
WELL WHAT THEN?!?!
I'm like...
PERSONALITY!!! I mean, I may have pretty hair, blue eyes and a bright smile, BUT by far, I KNOW that my personality is my greatest attribute. Janelle just starts laughing and she is like, "Mary! That is soooooooooo TRUE!!! You really do have the BEST personality!" I'm like, and MY PERSONALITY, is something SHE CAN NEVERRR HAVE!!! There is no other way to say it, except to say, THE ONE THING I HAVE, that no OTHER GIRL can compete with me on, is simply...
ME!!!
There is NO other girl in the world that can ever be Mary Frances Ginty!!!
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Back to the phone call, I told my friend Janelle, "Soooo Yeah, I've just decided that's what I am going to use to get this guy...myself OR my Maryness. Cause, I mean lets face it...There is nooooooo waaaaay she can compete with me there.
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Your secret weapon, your magic tool,
is simply YOU!!!
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We all have this ability be yourself, which NO ONE can compete with. AND actually, this is true in EVERY aspect of our lives NOT just in relationships. I've used this SAME concept when teaching several times on writing. I said, HOW can you be better than EVERY writer out there?! By just being yourself! Your writing should NOT represent your favorite author.
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When people read my stuff and I don't want to hear them say, "Oh this is soooo Max Lucado!" Most people describe me as loving, passionate, fun, expressive, vivacious and humorous. (Oh AND cRaZy!) When you read my writing you will always see these same attributes in my writing. When people read something I wrote, I hope they think, DUUUUDE this is soooooo MARY!!! If you sing, don't try and sing like some famous person, SING LIKE YOU! Do your hair LIKE YOU! Dress like YOU! Act like YOU! Teach like YOU! Speak like YOU! JUST BE YOU!
No one can compete with who YOU are!!!!
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Think about it...if you’re trying SOOO hard to be just like someone else, why would ANYONE want to give up what they ALREADY have, for YOU, trying to be, what THEY ALREADY HAVE?!
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It was stupid to even for a second, have thought to try and be like this girl! I’m not a musician, a singer or any kind of leader, I’m not elegant, educated and classy!!!
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Buuuuuuuut I am a people’s person, I love children, I’m a writer, a talker, a foodie, an ethnicity enthusiast, a worshipper, a Sunday School teacher and I bring people to church ⛪️, I can cook, bake aaaaaaand even clean… I mean no one’s gonna be hiring me to clean, buuuuuuut I’m not to shabby and I’m not afraid to clean the toilet 🚽(weeellll unless my brother used it)I’m a pretty awesome person, EVEN IF I wasn’t anything like this other girl!!!
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Annnnnnd nooooo, I didn’t get that guy, buuuuuuuut he was a good friend and I ended up introducing him to one of my very good friends and he DID END UP marrying her… and I’m perfectly ok with that, because she was EXACTLY the kind of woman he needed!!!
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Remember God made you special. The best thing you have to compete with, is being the person God made you to be. There is NO one in the world quite like you. Soooooo heeeey...might as well use this to YOUR ADVANTAGE!!!
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Soooooo how do you compete for someone you like??? You just be YOU!!! Be THE BEST YOU, that you can possibly be!!! There is someone out there, that needs someone JUST LIKE YOU!!! Your heart, your passions, your personality, your story, your testimony AND your experiences in life...THEY ARE YOURS AND NO ONE ELSE CAN HAVE THEM!!!
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Maybe you’re thinking about that one girl that EVERY GUY LIKES, and you’re thinking but it would be nice to be THAT GIRL… and yeah it would be really niiiiiice, buuuuuuut just remember it doesn’t really matter because they can still ONLY MARRY ONE PERSON, and maybe it’s hard for them, knowing that people only like you for what they see on the outside without ever truly taking the time to see what’s on the inside of them!!!
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Annnnnnd if your sitting here, reading this and thinking, looks like your advice hasn't worked TO GREAT FOR YOU MARY... yeah, I KNOW YOU THOUGHT THAT as you read this...I say, buuuuuuut it WILL!!!
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ONE DAY, THE RIGHT guy is going to fall for my laugh, my smile, my klutzyness, my sparkle, my fun-loving ways, my wild imagination, my adventurous spirit, my outlandish tales, my talkative mouth, my randomness, my big, loving, Mar Bear heart, MY MARYNESS!!!
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Sure I could try to be less Mary-like, buuuuuuuuuuuut...
THE PROBLEM is that...
I really LIKE
LOOOOOVE being ME!!!
"To try and be someone else, is to waste the person YOU are!!!"
JUST BE YOU!!! :)))
♥Mary Frances :)
P.S.Its really NOT a competition...So stop trying....annnnnd start TRUSTING!!! ;))))
