Monday, March 18, 2024

Happy Monday!!!

Some of us just won’t be making it in the technology world as a career!!!! hee, hee!!! 😂 


♥Mary Frances :)

Sunday, March 17, 2024

Happy Sunday!!!

It’s soooooo true, WE AR SOOOO UNWORTHY, yet Jesus still loves us!!!! “ But God commendeth his love toward us,in that, while we were yet sinners, Christdied for us.”


♥Mary Frances :)

Saturday, March 16, 2024

Single Saturday!!!!

ahahahahahaaaa 

♥Mary Frances :)

About Hide & Seek…

i wanted to tell you all about the Hide & Seek post i wrote 👇 below! i wrote that in 2013 and as i wrote the part with story of the man and woman hiding and searching for each other, i felt very strongly that i was writing my own love story! i know it’s weird but i truly felt that!!! I always know that when I write that God speaks to me, but I can explain how strong of an anointing from God I felt when I wrote that devotional. There's only been a few times in my life that I literally felt like God was writing through me and that devotional is one of them. I was up in my room into the wee hours of the night and could NOT go to sleep without completing it on my laptop, it's hard to explain, buuuuuuut...I HAD TO WRITE IT!!!! 
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Recently, a young lady wrote to me about how she had found that devotional on my other blog and how much it had helped her and she said she wanted to be like me. And I was like, AWWWWW!!! Buuuut I told her, choosing to wait in God is a continuous decision that you will have to choose over and over again in your life. I said right now your in your early 20's and it seems like you've already waited FOREVERRRR to get married. I remember how i felt back then, it felt like I had waited my whole life to get married AND TRUTHFULLY, I had!!!
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You would think that at the age of 40 it would have gotten harder for me, but to be honest, it's gotten easier to learn to trust in God. The desire I have had my whole life has strongly stayed the same, but not taking circumstances into my own hands has gotten easier because I see how God has looked out for me and taken care of me and kept me and because of that I trust God more now than I did before. 
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I knew in my early 20's what it was like to have a broken heart and to trust God and to begin to truly work on His kingdom. And from that first broken heart, I also know what it's like to go into my 30's and to continue to do the work of God as I wait and wait and wait and wait and WAIT on God and to see things beginning to come to together in my late 30's and to think FINALLY after all this time of waiting FINALLY it's going to happen and to then see everything once again fall apart.
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Yet, I have NO REGRETS choosing to hide my heart in God. I remember when I was younger, hearing a girl say, I'M GOING TO GETMARRIED SOON!!! I will NOT be one of those older single girls. I remember thinking in my head, well I hope you don't do anything STUPID!!! But I watched as she got this really good-looking guy and a gorgeous baby and I was like, MAYBE I should be more like that girl!
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 But I'll never forget the day we were at a birthday party together and she was holding her baby and she looked so tired and I gave her a hug and said how's married life girl?!? And she looked at me sooooo SAD and she just said, MARRIAGE IS REALLY HARD!!! And I felt soooo bad for her. Then a year or so later her marriage ended and she became a single mom and it was really a sad thing. God worked everything out for her and about 5 years later she met a really good man that loved her and her girl and I can't help but think she could have saved herself a lot of heartache if she had just been willing to BE ONE OF THOSE OLDER SINGLE GIRLS that waited on God!!!
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You might look at me and think, your 40 years old and still single, where has waiting on God gotten you Mary? I have NO REGRETS!!! I'm not one of those girls that has a new boyfriend every other year either. I don't need a man to feel wanted, loved or beautiful. I know who I am, I know who made me, who chose me, who died from me and who saved my soul from hell. I know what the word of God says about me. God has been so good to me. 
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In my early 20's I really pushed a relationship to happen out of desperation to not be left behind as my childhood friends began to get married, buuuuuut I learned my lesson. I have not had a boyfriend since then. I've also learned not to beg God for a guy to like you, because when you see them backslide, you realize that God is looking out for you as a loving and protective father.
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It's worth it people!!!! And I can say that right now, I'm 40 years old and I've never been kissed and I have NO REGRETS!!! STILL IN THE WAITING, I'm tell you all, YOU CAN MAKE IT!!!
♥Mary Frances :)

Friday, March 15, 2024

Hide & Seek!!! (Mary Frances Writing Transfer 2013)

"Ok I'm it!" Says the seeker,
 "Everyone go hide!" 
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You scurry around frantically searching for the best hiding spot as the seeker begins to count. "1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9,10... Oh where should you go? Under the table? In the bathtub? Behind the cupboard? "16, 17, 18,19, 20, Ready or NOT here I come!" 
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Oh no, times up, the seeker is coming, and you still haven't found your hiding spot! Where should you go? Quick you cover yourself up in mom's clean laundry and hope that the seeker won't notice that the pile is moving rythmatically with your breathing. Ah the good old days as a child, I have such fond memories! Do you remember playing hide and seek as a kid?! I LOOOOOOVED playing that game...ACTUALLY I still do!!!  One thing that I realize now looking back, is that there were always TWO kinds of hiders.
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THE EASY TO FIND HIDERS
First and most common amongst the hiders were the people like ME. I was that person that you could spot out a MILE away because I didn't quite fit into my hiding spot and there was always either a leg or arm left sticking out of my hiding spot. Or IF I was actually hidden all the way and covered where no one could see me, when the seeker would walk by me WITHOUT seeing me, a giggle would almost ALWAYS accidentally escape out of me, immediately LETTING them know EXACTLEY where I was! OR if I did manage to stay hidden really well, and I was completely hidden, and I managed to stay quiet, after about 20 minutes of hiding and NOT being found I would grow IMPATIENT. I would get worried; I would wonder what happened? Did they forget about me? I couldn't take NOT being found, so I would come out of my hiding spot, hoping to be seen by the seeker, llike HELLO, look at me! Then I would make a run for it to base, but OF COURSE, I was NEVER a fast runner and always got CAUGHT before making it to base!
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THE GOOD HIDERS
ANNNNNND then there were the OTHER hiders! The hiders who were so slick, so quiet, so calm you hardly even hear them breathing and these hiders ALWAYS had THE BEST spots for hiding. These hiders didn't wait till the last minute to find their hiding spot. They had already scanned their surroundings and had their hiding spot all planned out. When it was time to hide, they didn't hesitate, they didn't look around at the other hiders to see where they were doing, they didn't try to hide with the other hiders. It didn't matter to these hiders what everyone else was doing, they had a plan, and they were determined to stick with it.These hiders never gave up and they NEVER came out from their hiding spot before they were found. It didn't matter HOW uncomfortable their hiding spot was, they were patient and they waited and waited and waited and WAITED, til FINALLY they were FOUND by the seeker!!!! These hiders WERE RARE, whereas the GIGGLERS, like me, were ABUNDANT!!! 
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However, there were ALSO two kinds of seekers: 1. The IMPATINENT seekers- these were those that after a little while of searching and NOT being able to find the hider they would throw their hands up in defeat and say OKAY, I give up, come out of your hiding spot and YOU WIN!!! 
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OR there were...
2. The DETERMINED seekers!!! These seekers REFUSED to give up!!! They would tear apart every part of the house, closets, rooms, cupboards, drawers, they would look up down, inside, outside, on the roof, the chimmney, trash barrels, EVERYWHERE!!! They didn't care what they had to do, or what they had to put themself through, they were NOT going to give up, they were going to FIND that hider!!! They were JUST as patient and JUST as determined as that hider AND finally find them, and the SEEKER would say, there you are, I FOUND YOU!!! And the hider would just smugly say, "WELL ITS ABOUT TIME!!!" 
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This got me to thinking about how love, TRUE LOVE, between a Godly man and woman, is like a really good game of HIDE and SEEK! The MAN is the SEEKER, and the WOMAN is the HIDER! Now when I say HIDER, I do NOT mean as in the whole, "Hard-to-get" game. I've always FAILED miserably with that! People say, oh you have to ignore him, I'm like okaaaaay, we're going on TWO YEARS now and he STILL doesn't know that I exist! I just have difficulty snubbing people, by nature I am a very friendly person, it doesn't matter WHO you are, if you say hi to me, or even if you don't and you just walk by me, I will MOST likely smile and say HI to you! Thats JUST ME!!! :)
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So, when I say that LOVE is like a good game of HIDE and SEEK, i'm NOT talking about like a visible, physical game that you can see with your own eyes. I'm talking about a SPIRITUAL game of HIDE and SEEK!!! Buuuuut of course if its spiritual it's NOT really a game. I found this quote some years ago and have absolutely LOOOOOVED it!!! It says...
“A woman’s heart should be so hidden in Christ, that a man should have to seek Him first to find her.” Maya Angelou
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Isn't that a BEAUTIFUL quote?! I just LOVE IT!!! There are so many things that want to steal our hearts away. We can worry so much about the safety of our hearts and who we decide to love. Is he REALLY a good guy? Is he REALLY a man of God? There are so many what IFs in relationships, you want to guard your heart and keep it safe but are you strong enough? Is there ANY place that is truly safe enough? How do you know for sure?  Christ is the answer for where we should hide our hearts. Think about it ladies, could there POSSIBLY be a better, safer MORE secure hiding place than IN JESUS??? I think NOT!!! 
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The Bible says in Proverbs 31:10..."Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies." The word of God says, a truley VIRTUOUS woman is RARE and she is HARD to find!!! The Bible is LITERALLY asking WHO could possibly find her?! Meanwhile, concerning the man, the Bible says in Proverbs 18:22..."Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord."Both of these scriptures in Proverbs refer to THE WOMAN being FOUND!!! 
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How could a woman possibly hide her heart in God?
Single ladies, imagine with me, your heart ACTUALLY being hidden in Christ!

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 In my mind I see a woman's heart being so enraptured in God's spirit that it is literally hidden there in Him. Sheltered, shielded, veiled, roofed, enclosed, guarded, embraced and binded in His presence. She covers it well in praise and worship to her savior! Every time she prays, God pulls her in a little bit bit more. She fasts and He tucks her under shadow of His wings. She pours her heart out to him humbly in a spirit of brokenness and God enfolds her a little closer. She submits and obeys to her God-given authorities and God's arm of protection tightens around her. She clothes herself in modest apparel, wrapping herself more into the seclusion of her hider. She holds about her a meek and quiet spirit, keeping from drawing attention to her hiding spot. Her face is covered with shamefacedness and sobriety. 
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When she is lonely, he swathes her tightly in his everlasting love. She is constricted from the danger and harm of false seekers by obedience to His Word. She is bound to her hiding place by a promise of purity. She is not afraid, because he is the light for her path, her rock, her fortress, her refuge, her deliverer, her mighty strong tower and her waymaker. She is gracious to her fellow hiders, refraining from jealousy and petty squabbles. She uses The Word of God as a mirror to see the reflection of her heart. The longings of her heart are concealed by her discretion, because she understands what her hider told her, "Commit thy way unto the LORD; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass." (Psalm 37:5) 
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She is chaste in her ways, faithful to her seeker, wherever he is, she remains in her haven of Christ. It's NOT always easy for her to stay in her hiding place, sometimes she feels a awkward, sometimes she gets a little uncomfortable, sometimes she just wants to JUMP out and say, HELLLLOOOO...i'm RIGHT HERE!!! LOOK AT ME!!! Buuuut she doesn't do that! Instead, she is patient, she trusts in the security of her hiding place, and she waits, and she waits, and she WAITS!!! She is reassured of the protection that comes from her hiding place, because she knows that the one, she is hiding in is looking out for what is best for her! 
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Then, as she gives God her all, as she breaks her alabaster box and gives Him EVERYTHING she's got, God is pleased with her, she finds favor in his sight. As she continues to please Him, I imagine in my mind, that God, just smiles to himself and says, This WOMAN is a GOOOOOD HIDER and it's going to take ONE MIGHTY GOOD SEEKER, to FIND THIS ONE!!! 
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Meanwhile, MAN, he is over there SEEKING God, for his hidden treasure, for WOMAN, for his WIFE. He doesn't go about his search by taking it into his own hands and doing things his way. He remembers what he was taught, "But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you." (Matthew 6:33) So he begins his quest by searching for her daily in prayer! He looks through the whole entire Bible, he is tearing apart the alter in desperation to find her. He hopes that if he builds a high enough atler of praise and worship to God, that some way, somehow he can climb to the top and catch sight of her. He offers sacrifices of Thanksgiving to God, hoping that he'll get a little closer to finding her! During his endeavor to find her, man makes a covennent to God with his eyes, vowing to put no evil before them. 
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He resists temptation from false hiders, seeking for the one that is truly hidden in God! He stands for holiness, unchanging in what he believes, unmovable in his convictions, he takes direction and council from the spiritual leaders in his life advising and guiding him in his quest. When he is wrong, he takes correction and chastisment well, redirecting his steps. He practices self-control, self-denial and treats all hiders carefully with respect, valuing all virtue with esteem and regard, willing to defend them as one would a sister. He is hardworking, consistent, steadfast and dependable to the work of The Lord. He is tough in upholding rightousness, but gentle in his regard towards others.
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Sometimes he stumbles while trying to find her, but he refuses to get stuck in the ruts and ditches of life. He continues on, magnifying The Word Of God to guide his way. He understands that, "The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord: and he delighteth in his way." (Psalm 37:23) ANNNND Oh its sooooo hard, she has hidden herself so well...he can't seem to find her anywhere! He toils through hard times, refusing to get stuck in the ruts and ditches of life. When he trips, when he falls, he pulls himself back up, He doesn't halter his journey wallowing in self pitty. He doesn't explore different routes or new ideas; he stays on the straight and narrow path abstaining from pit stops along the way. He is dilligent in his labour towards God. There are times he just wants to throw his hands up in frustration and say FORGET IT God, I GIVE UP!!! She is TOO GOOD of a hider, there is NO WAY, I could ever find her. 
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BUUUUT he refuses to give up, because he is DETERMINED...because he is a soujourner on a journey, he has a goal, a destination, a made-up mind, he won't be swayed by false hiders, HE MUST FIND HER!!! So instead, he looks through the WHOLE ENTIRE BIBLE again. He studies to show himself approved before God. 
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He examines his heart daily to see if there is anything that would stand in the way between him and God. 
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Man begins to get closer to finding her. He can't see her, but he can hear her breathing, he knows she is right there, so he prays for God open his eyes and let him see her, to reveal his will to him. He searches a little deeper in God by adding fasting to his prayer, and as he seeks God for her in fasting, his carnal flesh begins to die and humbly in a spirit of brokenness, he cries out to The Lord in desperation and begs God to help him find his wife. And as man prays, and seeks, God approves of his ways.
And the more man prays, and the more he cries and the more he breaks before God. 
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THE CLOSER MAN gets to God, THE CLOSER man gets to finding her, BECAUSE she is HIDDEN in GOD! Then ONE DAY man gets SOOOO CLOSE TO GOD it happens, he SEES HER...HIS WIFE!!! 
He can't believe it, she is right there, RIGHT IN FRONT OF HIM and she is lovely, her countenance is BEAUTIFUL, she is womanly, feminine, everything he could have ever hoped for.  He knows he must DECLARE it; he must claim his treasure.

 "Thats it, he says, "I FOUND YOU! Your everything I've been looking for, I WON! YOUR MINE!!! And woman, she just smiles sweetly and says, "You FINALLY found me! I've been RIGHT here, WAITING patiently for YOU this whole entire time!" And MAN, he just smiles endearingly at her and says, "well, your ONE GOOD hider Woman, and you found yourself ONE good hiding spot!" 
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 "It wasn't always easy, says woman, "Sometimes I wondered if you would EVER see me. There were times I so badly wanted to come out of hiding," she says, "but I knew, that God would keep me if I just trusted in him" 
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 "I'm so proud of you for hiding so well," says man, "I am very pleased that you waited for me." She smiles at man adoringly and says, "I knew that the RIGHT seeker would be determined, and the RIGHT seeker would search my hiding place till he found me, and the RIGHT seeker would obtain favor from my hider allowing him to see me when he chose to allow it."  
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Then Man, says, "but you know, it feels so good right here, right where I found you," then he takes her hand in his and says, "I say we construct a memorial here so that we never forget where we found each other. 
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Then I say we just stay right here where I found you, and build a life here, TOGETHER in Christ." 
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So, Man and Woman, they become husband and wife! They made and altar to God in their home, and they lived, JOYFULLY ever after, serving Christ together till their dying day. 

ANNNND that my friends IS the kind of HIDE AND SEEK game that I am talking about!!! Can you think of anything sweeter? Anything BETTER??? ANYTHING more ROMANTIC??? That's the kind of love story I want to have!!!! II may have been the EASIEST person to find in hide and seek as a child, but as a woman of God, I want to be a good hider! Ladies, we've got to hide our hearts in God! Think about the safety and protection we have by doing so! What kind of a man would search God for the heart of a woman?! It wouldn't be just any kind of man. 
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 "For ye have need of patience, that, after ye have done the will of God, ye might receive the promise." (Hebrews 10:36 )`

I think sometimes us females try to take things into our own hands. We do our own seeking instead of hiding. We try playing foolish and immature games that toy with the hearts of seekers. We try to draw attention to ourselves that will lure in seekers. We're practically screaming, "Pick ME! I'm right here! LOOK at me!!!" We get sooooo anxious, we get sooooo DESPERATE!!! We find ourselves jumping up and down waving our arms trying to get the seekers attention! We don't need to be like that!!! We NEED to hide ourselves in JESUS!!! We NEED to entrust our hearts in the safety of Christ our protector! 

When I was in my mid-teens, my pastor at the time, now Bishop of our church, told us girls that we basically had the easy part in the relationship process. He told us that basically all we needed to do was to just WAIT. NONE of us girls liked hearing that at the moment, and although it's taken me years to comprehend and get revelation of his words, I understand what he was trying to teach us. Just trust in God for the SEEKER to FIND YOU!!! When your hiding, you start clearing out the numbers on your phone, your email list, you start shutting things out of your life that allow the seekers to have effortless accessibility to conversing with you. You refrain yourself from getting too close to the opposite gender. If they want to talk to you, text you, email you, write you, they'll have get approval, seek permission from someone that is over you. 
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 Don't take as long as ME, for the light bulb to turn on, discover RIGHT NOW, to entrust yourself to God. Just hide your heart in Christ, then rest there in His safety. Perhaps you're thinking about how you're going to lessen your chances with finding a mate even more. May I tell you something I discovered, I realized that ALL those things that I was holding on to, that I THOUGHT would increase my chances at finding a mate, weren't working in my benefit anyways. God made the heaven and the earth from out of NOTHING, he doesn't NEED a social-networking sight or ANY of man's inventions to give you a spouse. The things that we think are helping us can in actuality be hindrances in our lives, we just need to let go, and LET GOD!!!
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 What can we do while we're waiting? We can cover ourselves a little bit more in prayer! We can let God pull us in a little bit closer, blanketing our hearts in His care, swaddling us in a love that will never disappoint us. 

Ladies you don't want you don't want a lazy seeker. You want someone with some tenacity and determination. Wait for the one that gets close enough to God that he can see your hidden heart! There are some hiders, that are so easy to be found. Its not saying that they're BAD, but they never learned hide their hearts the way they should have. They didn't delve themself fully and completely into the things of God, they're still trying to do things on their own.
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 God wants you to have so much MORE than a marriage that just, "Works out!" God wants you to have a work together serving him. What better way to find your life companion than in God. If you find each other, IN CHRIST, you'll live your lives right there together in Him. We've got to tell ourselves that NOT just any old seeker is going to find us!Our hearts are HIDDEN, we're NOT going to come out of our hiding spot, if he wants us he'll have to keep getting closer to God! Tell yourself that, Man can't just have ME...IF he wants ME... HE IS GOING TO HAVE TO GO THROUGH CHRIST to get ME!!! 
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Who's READY to play??? Hiders REMEMBER to stay hidden! No matter how uncomfortable or awkward you may feel, don't come out!!!  God's not gonna let any old seeker find your heart IF it's hidden in him...soooo Be patient and WAIT!!! The right seeker won't give up, he'll know your worth the search!  I earnestly believe that finding the will of God for our lives is such an important thing! Marriage can NOT be taken lightly! Aside from choosing to live for God, MARRIAGE is the most important decision we'll ever make!!! Get ready HIDERS, it's time to PRAY, fast, read your Bibles and PRAY SOME MORE!!! 1,2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7,8, 9, 10...LETS PLAY HIDE AND SEEK!!!
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"Trust in the LORD with all your heart; and lean not unto your own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths." (Proverbs 3:5-6)
♥Mary Frances :)

Thursday, March 14, 2024

The Bible said it...

NOT ME!!! ;)
Sooooooo the other day I'm reading my Bible and look to see WHAT I had previously written underneath a highlighted scripture in my Bible...
It's "These are the things which defile a man," (thefts, fornications, false witness, blastphemies, murder, adultery...) "but to eat with unwashen hands defileth not a man..." THEN I have written under that, "We do NOT need to wash our hands!"
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YES, for realz my friends...I REALLY WROTE THAT IN MY BIBLE!!! BAHAHAHAHAAAA!!! I wish I could say that I've had this Bible since I was a child, buuuuuuuuuuuuut, i'm pretty sure I've had it since I was at least 18 maybe even in my 20's...AHAHAHAHAHAAAA!!! Buuuuuuuuuuut heeeeeeeeyyyy just to spiritualize my notes, WHEN YOUR DOING THE LORD'S WORK...you JUST NEVER KNOW when your going to have to eat something WITHOUT WASHING YOUR HANDS...Soooo there you have it...IT'S OK...JUST EAT AND DO THE WORK OF THE LORD!!! LOLOLOL!!!
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♥Mary Frances :)
P.S. I hope NONE of my nursing degree or Germ-A-phobic friends read this post...hee, hee!!! ;)
P.P.S. Thank God for hand-sanitizer!!!! Buy the best kind HERE

Wednesday, March 13, 2024

WHAT IF THEY ADVERTISED ON YOUR CAR...

Sooooooo last week I had to take an Article 9 class (Article 9 is the rights of people with special needs buuuut I believe they use a more politically correct term than special needs but I can't remember what it is!)  to renew my license for my job and you never know how the class is going to be, sometimes the teacher is really practical and down to earth and other times the teacher has on their SPECIAL NEEDS Super-Cape!!!
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Now clearly I am a kind and loving person that wouldn't be mean to anyone, buuuuuuuuuuut sometimes they can go overboard with some of their ideas and this teacher was definitely EXTRA in that category!!! And he started talking about how he doesn't think that that anyone should wear a name tag while on the job, which I lost mine LITERALLY the week I got hired buuuuuuuuuuut, he feels its wrong to that individual that their "FRIEND" wears a name tag around them! Or he thinks it's wrong when people wear scrubs because how would you feel if your "FRIENDS" wore scrubs around you??? (I don't need scrubs buuuut some people DO!!!) And I'm thinking like, if I spit, drooled or needed my diaper changed when I hung out with my "FRIENDS" then LET THEM WEAR THOSE SCRUBS BRO!!!! 
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He's like HOW WOULD YOU LIKE it if your "FRIENDS" only came to hang out with you if they were ON THE SCHEDULE???? I'm liiiiiiike, BRO LITERALLY i'm getting a paycheck for this ANYWAYZ!!! THIS IS MY JOB!!!
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Then he goes on and says that he doesn't think group home cars for individuals with special needs should have the name of the program on it! He says, that's PROFILING!!!! He says, HOW WOULD YOU LIKE IT...
IF YOUR ETHNICITY WAS ADVERTISED ALL OVER YOUR CAR???
He said it like that was the ABSOLUTE WORSE THING EVERRRRR and I was thinking liiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiike I WELCOME IT!!!!! 
YOU WRITE ALL OVER MY CAR...
ITALIAN GIRL 
AND WRITE IT IN HOT PINK TOO!!!!
I've neverrrrr understood WHY people would be ashamed of their ethnicity!!!
Whateverrrrr you are, EMBRACE your beautiful self!!!! God made you that way now make me some good ETHNIC FOOD while your at it!!!! AHAHAHAHAHAAAAA!!


♥Mary Frances :)

Tuesday, March 5, 2024

Another reason WHY…

I do NOT want to marry someone 
LIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIKE ME!!!!
# FutureSpouseTruth
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i read the above meme and just busted up laughing 😂!!! i mean i looooooove being ME!!! I looooooove being around ME!!! There’s no other person i’d rather be than MYSELF, buuuuuuut let’s be real, there’s only room for one ME around me!!!! lol 😝 

People like me actually kinda get on my nerves and it’s funny because i’m super easygoing but my sister can pick up on it and she’ll be like they’re getting on your nerves aren’t they??? and i’m liiiiiiiike YEEEEESSSS!!! 
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plus it’s usually like all the same strengths and weaknesses and nothing to balance each other out!!! Like people will tell me you should go for that guy because he’s so fun, he’s just like a big kid, LIKE YOU!!! and i’m like, buuuuuuuut if he’s just like a big kid and i’m just like a big kid…WHO’S GONNA BE THE ADULT??? 
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Because i’m NOT about to grow up just because 40…
and i sho ain’t gonna grow up just because IM MARRIED!!!! BAHAHAHAHAAA!!!
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One of my closest friends married one of the funnest and funniest guys everrrrrr!!!!! liiiiike i don’t say this very often buuuuuuuut i actually think he’s funnier than me!!! (At one point i did have a crush on him buuuuuut i’ve actually had a crush on ALMOST all my friends spouses BEFORE they were married and they’re fine with it!!! one friend even wouldn’t go for the man she married UNLESS i had, had a crush on him cuz she said if i hadn’t that meant he was NOT A GOOD GUY!!! 😂) the day before they got married, my friend was STRESSING and trying to get everything ready for the wedding 💒, her and i were actually packing her fiancés suitcase for the honeymoon… no JOKE… that’s how chill he was, weeeeeeeelllll i was SUPPOSED TO BE HELPING buuuuuuut i was actually sitting there, goofing off with her fiancé while she freaked out and packed! and in the middle of us goofing off together he was like, SEE MARY, this is why her and i are soooooo perfect for each other, she’s just like, go, go, GO, ALL DAY EVERYDAY and i’m just like ALL PLAY!!! and she helps me to actually get stuff done and i help her to ACTUALLY HAVE FUN!!! and i was liiiiiiike AWWWWW!!!! that’s sooooooo true!!!! and then we went back to goofing off together while his fiancé and my bestie FREAKED OUT AND WORKED!!!! 😂🤣
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buuuuuuuut it’s sooooo true, i get a long great with her husband, we are great friends and have a blast when we get together, buuuuuuut us together would’ve been a cRaZy MESS of fun, chaos and not a lot of anything getting done!!!! ✔️ and i’ve always remembered that day before their wedding 💒 packing for their honeymoon!!!! To look for balance!!! 
or like they’ll be you’d be perfect together cuz you he likes to SHOP TOO!!!! annnnnd i’m liiiiiiiike NOOOOOOOOO!!! Two shoppers???? we are going to be sooooooooooo BROKE!!!! We’re going to be living in a cardboard box 📦!!!! and he’ll. be like, Babe, i’m going to get us a bigger box to live in and i’d be liiiiike, and make sure you buy some glitter to decorate our new home!!!! 🤣😂🤣😅
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Also, random thought buuuuuuuuut…when they tell me he’s really into clothes too just like you!!!! and i do NOT KNOW WHY, buuuuuuuut it irritates me so much when guys are super stylish!!! now don’t get me wrong, i liiiike NICE AND SHARPLY DRESSED on guys buuuuuuuut just simple and idk why!!!! absolutely no accessories! not hankies or bow ties(except Odin) no hats, vests etc… just a nice suit and tie for church and regular long sleeved casual t-shirts or button down for the rest of the time and nothing super flamboyant… liiiiiike i’m the one that’s meant to SHINE…and you would think with me being soooooo girly-girly and the Queen of hair accessories and looking all dazzled up and bright and colorful that i’d want the same for my man but it just kinda is not attractive to me… maybe in some way because i’m that way i see it as feminine… no offense to the stylish guys out there bbbbbbbut yeah i just like guys to look sharp and that’s all!!! and light blue is THE NICEST COLOR EVERRRRRR ON A MAN… like any ethnicity looks HOT in a light blue dress shirt… EVEN WHITE GUYS!!! ;)
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weeeeeeeeeellllll i said all that to SAY…
I HOPE WE BOTH my future husband and i DONT FORGET THE KIDS AT SCHOOL 🏫 CUZ WE MAY THINK ITS FUNNY BUUUUUUT SISTER ABBOTT WILL NOT!!! 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂😇
♥Mary Frances :)

Monday, March 4, 2024

Happy Monday!!!

Lean this week on Jesus!!! He knows what He’s doing!!! He has a plan!!! His thoughts are not our thoughts, His ways are not our ways!!! We see the corner, buuuuuuut God sees AROUND THE CORNER!!! 
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As for God, his way is perfect: the word of the Lord is tried: he is a buckler to all those that trust in him.“
(Psalm 18:30)

♥Mary Frances :)

Sunday, March 3, 2024

Happy Sunday!!!

" I was glad when they said unto me, Let us go into the house of the Lord." (Psalm 122:1)
♥Mary Frances :)

Saturday, March 2, 2024

Classic Mary Outreach Moment!!!

Soooooooo today during outreach we hit some of the Hispanic community whom has lots of children that speak English but the parents do NOT!!! Weeeeeeeelllll you guys knoooooooooow, that doesn’t stop me from TRYING… emphasis on TRYING!!!
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Sooooooo in an effort to still make a connection with the parents I would say, “Te amo Mary” or “My name is Mary!” At least that’s what I THOUGHT I was saying buuuuuut at the end of the day I was thinking about it and I was liiiiiike I was getting some odd looks, maybe I should confirm what te amo means!
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Sooooooooooi texted a Spanish speaking friend and asked does te amo mean my name is…? She was like no it means I love you! Then she said: WHY??? I was liiiiiike uh basically I’ve been telling random men today that Mary loves them…
OOOOOOOOPS!!!!!!
She was laughing so hard!!! I was laughing so hard tears were actually coming out of my eyes!!! I’m liiiiiike heeeeeey we all have our own way of reaching souls… 
mine is with LOOOOOOOVE!!! 🥰 😇 
♥Mary Frances :)
P.S. I’ll be spending all week practicing the correct way to say MY NAME IS MARY IN SPANISH!!!! 

P.P.S. Hey I knoooooow all the important SpNish words te amo and gwapo!!! 😂 😇 

Tuesday, February 27, 2024

I understand Arabic!!!

Sooooo one night, several years ago, a group of us went to Oregano's, this seemed to be our new hang to eat, its THE ONE place everyone could ALL agree on, even tho it takes us an HOUR, EVERY SUNDAY NIGHT, to decide where we are going. Weeeeelll this night, as we're sitting there looking over our menus, I noticed that the table across from us was trying to take a group picture.
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So they had the whole group in one picture except for the woman that was holding the phone taking the picture! Then after she took the picture she sat down and handed the phone to another woman take a group picture with her in it...buuuuut NOW, this lady taking the picture wouldn't be in it and there would be no picture for them with all of them in it!!!
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Weeeeeeelllll you know ME, I HAD to offer them my assistance. I called out to them, if you want I can take a picture for you guys so that ALL of you can be in the picture at the SAME TIME!!! They were like, Oh that would be GREAT!!! Thank you SOOOO MUCH!!! So I walk over to them, they hand me the phone to take a picture!!! Annnnnnd NO I DID NOT drop her phone, JUST IN CASE that's where you thought this story was going!!! ( I did think about that while I was taking the pic tho!!! I was like OMW, what if I drop her phone??? I didn't want a recap of THIS MOMENT!!!)
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Soooo I take several pictures on her camera and then I thought I heard a man say take another one, SO I DID!!! Then when I handed them back the camera they were all staring at me in AWE!!! And one of the men says, So you speak Arabic??? I'm like, HUH??? He said it again, you speak Arabic?
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Weeeeellll I must have looked very confused because than another older man says, When you were taking the pictures,
 I said to you in Arabic,
"Take another picture!" but I didn't say it in English at all and he repeated it in Arabic to me, he's like, and when I spoke it to you in Arabic, you just automatically took another picture like you understood exactly what I said!!! I busted up laughing!!! I'm like, I do NOT know Arabic at all, TRUST ME, I can NOT speak any language other than ENGLISH, annnnd thats PUSHING IT... buuuut I honestly thought you said to me...
TAKE ANOTHER PICTURE!!!📸
(IN ENGLISH!)
They thought it was just HILARIOUS!!!
What can I say, I'm sooo spirit minded,
 not only do I speak in other tongues,
 I HEAR IN OTHER TONGUES!!!
Yup, that's ME, Mar Bear,  
understanding foreign languages without even trying!!!
AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!
♥Mary Frances :)

Monday, February 26, 2024

Happy Monday!!!


I’m striiiiiiiiiiving to be a WISE WOMAN… not quite there yet, buuuuuuuuuuut WORKING ON IT!!! (The Wise Man seems kinda like, THE DREAM MAN!!! Lol;) Strive this week to do something good without telling ANYONE!!!! I dare YOU!!! I dare ME!!!! Hahahahahaaaa!!!

♥Mary Frances :)

Sunday, February 25, 2024

Happy Sunday!!!

Has God ever answered you without you every actually praying about??? Sometimes you just think it, liiiiiiike that would really be cool or I should… or I wonder if… OR I should pray about that or ask God for something or get Gods opinion on that, buts like a flash going through your mind and then you never get around to asking or you just forget about it AND THEN God responds to your thought!!! That is soooooo amaaaaaaaZing to me!!! It’s like proof that he knows EVERYTHING!!! It just solidifies faith in Him!!! He knows our hearts, he truly does

♥Mary Frances :)
P.S I’m NOT saying don’t pray 🙏 because God knows what’s in your heart and he already knows your heart, but sometimes God responds to your thoughts even when you don’t specifically mention that thought to Him, buuuuut…live prayerfully ALWAYS!!! 

Saturday, February 24, 2024

Single Saturday!!!

Not even lying 🤥 lol that’s actually on the positive side!!!
Bahahahahahahahahahaaaaaaaa!!!!!

♥Mary Frances :)

Friday, February 23, 2024

Holding His Hand(2nd blog post ever written, Maryfranceswriting transfer October 2006)

I sighed happily as I snuggled beneath my covers. The spring 2006 semester of college was over and for all I cared I would never be going back. After all, who needs school when you’re in love and getting married? Even though my boyfriend had not actually proposed to me, we had spent many hours on the phone talking about our wedding, and planning our future. I knew before the summer was over I would be engaged. I couldn’t help but smile; all my dreams of love and romance were finally coming true. Before I drifted off into dreamland I hugged my pillow and whispered a prayer of thanks, 
“God you are so good!”
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Several weeks later, I again lay in my bed beneath my covers. However, this time I was not smiling and whispering prayers of thanks. My head was buried in my pillow and my body shook as I sobbed the tears of a broken heart. I couldn’t understand how one day a person could be holding your hand, whispering sweet “I love you’s” then change their mind. My heart was crushed.
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It had been easy to give God thanks a few weeks ago when everything was going good, but what about now? I had always said I loved God, but did I know how to trust Him? I had always lived my life for Him, but now I would learn to hold His hand even when I couldn’t see the path he was leading me through.
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“I just don’t get it God! What are you doing? What in the world is going on?”
“ I have a plan for you Mary.”
“But God it hurts so much”
“Trust me.”
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As a little girl, I always knew what I wanted to be when I grew up. I was going to be the best mommy in the whole world, just like my mom. I would marry a Godly man and together we would love our kids, read them stories, and bring them to church. I secretly dreamed of making my family blueberry pancakes for breakfast. Now it seemed like that would never happen.
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What I didn’t know at the time was that what seemed like the end of my dreams was the beginning of something new. God was about to unfold a beautiful plan for my life.

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“Will you trust me Mary?”
“But God all I have ever wanted is to get married and be a mom!”
“Just trust me.”
“I promise to raise my children right…”
“Just trust me.”
“I’ll bring them to church…”
“Just trust me…”
“I’ll teach them your ways…”
“Just trust me…”
“God, I’m so desperate I even promise to be an obedient and submissive wife.”

“MARY! Will you please just trust me?”
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Finally the message sank in and I began to trust Him. Still there were times I wondered if I would ever get married and be a mom. God knew all the questions and ponderings of my heart, He didn’t say yes and He didn’t say no, instead He took my hand and led me in another direction.

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When the fall semester of school started I enrolled myself in as many classes as possible. I had planned on not returning to school this semester or taking on another semester of editorship for the college newspaper, but my breakup changed all that. I had to stay busy to keep my mind off the pain. Still, I found myself in the bathroom stall, in between classes, silently sobbing. Every night I cried myself to sleep. It was in these desperate moments of brokenness that a desire inside me began emerge.
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Despite my broken heart, I wanted to love. I remembered getting a fortune cookie that said, ‘Your ability to love will help a child in need.’ I knew in my heart that God wanted me to share my love. I began looking online for volunteer opportunities. The one thing that caught my eye was volunteering with sick kids at Phoenix Children’s Hospital. However, the process of being approved as a volunteer was quite lengthy. In the meantime, I continued to stay busy at school. One day my journalism instructor gave me an assignment to write an article on an English Literacy class that was being taught to African Refugee women.

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The class was being taught in the office of the Paradise Shadows apartment complex where a lot of African refugees live. Paradise Shadows is located in the Palomino Square area, a rather rough part of Phoenix. When I got there I saw kids running around, playing everywhere. They stared at me curiously as I walked to the office to begin observing the literacy class for my article. I tried to listen and take notes, but the whole time my mind was on the kids. About half way through I headed outside for a break and began talking to some little girls.

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They were so eager for my attention, showing off their braids and asking me to take their picture while they did a little cheerleading routine. I was having so much fun, that for just a few moments I forgot about everything else going on in my life. Soon it was time to leave and when their little brown arms wrapped around me in hugs, something began to pull on the strings of my heart. I knew immediately that these were the children God wanted me to love.



That was on a Tuesday evening of October 2006. That Saturday, I got my youth group together and we headed over to Paradise Shadows for outreach. We blitzed the place with church fliers and told all the kids to meet us on the playground. On the playground we sang songs, took prayer request and played with them. These kids play hard and wild. The boys were jumping out of trees and landing in the splits. By the end of the outreach we were hot, sweaty and tired. But, my youth group had fallen in love the kids as well.
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The next day was Sunday and some of the youth and my family drove over and started picking people up for church. We have been bringing people to church ever since and I don’t think our church has quite been the same. Our children’s ministry expanded. I began assisting my friend in her Sunday school class and soon became a teacher as well for the little girls class.
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Since that time I have had the opportunity to bring many of the kids to youth conferences and camps. One girl even came to live with me for several months until her mother came from Liberia. They have taught me about their culture, language, and even had me taste some African food. I have taught them about matching clothes, dressing modestly, hygiene, manners and much more. Together the older girls and I figured out how to curl their hair and I taught them my all time favorite girls game of M.A.S.H. Most importantly we all taught the kids about Jesus.
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I can now say that I honestly feel no sadness about my break-up. God used my broken heart to begin reaching out to the children and He used the children to begin healing my broken heart. Because of my brokenness, I was forced to dig deeper, move beyond myself and grab a hold of something bigger. There is nothing more amazing to me than seeing their arms stretched towards heaven, tears running down their cheeks as they surrender their lives to God.
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Now when I lay down at night I can smile and honestly say, God you are so good! The reason I say that is not because I have a new boyfriend and I think I’ll be getting married soon. The truth is that I am still very much single. It’s also not because God took away my desire to get married and be a mom. I still dream of holding my own baby and making my family blueberry pancakes.
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The reason I say God is good, is simply because He is. I see now that His hand is on my life. I look back to when I was a little girl and see that even then He was working on me, preparing me, for what I am doing right now. I don’t know what all God has in store for my life, but I do know that as long as I keep holding His hand, He will 
keep on leading. 
♥️- Mary Frances