Okaaaaaaaaaay sooooo when you all hear the title of this first book, you all are going to laugh, buuuuuut just listen to my review cuz this book has helped me soooooo much!!! Annnnnd it could make things clearer for you as well!!! This book is called,
Confessions Of A Boy-crazy Girl!!!
When I read that she would do ANYTHING to get a guys attention, even swallow a live goldfish, this brought back so many teenage memories!!! Liiiiiike, bringing binocular camera to a youth conference to take pics of my crush at the time...YES REALLY!!!
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Soooo this book was specifically written for teen girls, buuuuuut surprisingly, or maybe NOT soooooo surprisingly, I had no difficulty relating to this subject!!! Hee, hee!!! ;) So this book is a very easy read. I read it about two weeks ago, one Sunday night when I didn't go out to eat cuz my car was dead, so I thought I would read this book!
SPECIFIC HIGHLIGHTS TO ME:
(A few things that specifically spoke to me)
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1. Your NOT waiting on HIM!!!
She talks about how its not proper for us females to pursue a man. And she talks about how it may seem like its taking forever for him to ACTUALLY notice you. But she said the thing that we need to remember is that ultimately, if we're praying and seeking God on the matter, ultimately, it's NOT him, we're waiting on...
IT'S GOD!!!
One of God's tools is TIME!!! We don't know why its not happening or what's going on, buuuut if we're trusting in God, THEN IT'S GOD we're waiting on, NOT MAN!!!
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2. Is God waiting on me???
This wasn't in her book but when I read the first one this came to me as well so I figured I would add it in! What if it's ME??? Seek God to find out if there is something about YOU that God is waiting on YOU to change...OR for you to seek HIM, so that he can show you something. Maybe there is something that God wants you to see or learn BEFORE he lets it happen so that when it does happen, its so clear and you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that its right.
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3. Turning to God
is not a once in a lifetime experience
Many times I've had people tell me, just don't think about it and as soon as you don't it will happen OR let it go and just trust in God. What people didn't understand was that, I've done this all before. This is good coming from a young person but what people than me younger didn't understand was that, lets say I was 30 at the time and the person telling me this is 20, 10 years ago I was 20, the same age they are NOW, 10 years ago for them they were 10...just kid.. AND yes you can NOW be on the same maturity level and be able to relate to each other but what they didn't understand was the span of years that I had been a single person. I had one dear friend tell me, Just give it to God, don't think about it and then when you don't it will happen, that's what happened for me!!! And I get that buuuuuut they didn't understand that in the process of time, I'd already done that many times and NOTHING happened!!! I'm jus sayin!!! But what she says in this book is that, Turning to God is not a once in a lifetime experience, but a moment by moment journey!
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We will CONTINUALLY, have to turn to God and give things over to him, and just understand that JUST BECAUSE we do that, does NOT mean that God will give you what you want like he did when so-and-so did that!!! Therefore, over the process of time, this will be a continual thing that you will need to do!!!
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4. Don't put God on trial!!!
This was by far the most important thing that I got from this book. Sometimes we say we're trusting God but we're really TESTING him to see how strong and might HE IS!!! We sit ourselves on the judges seat and we put him on the trial seat and It's like we're saying Ok God, lets see if you actually come through for ME!!! So are you going to what YOU SAID you were going to do or what???
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How dare we put, GOD, the Almighty, our creator and redeemer on trial! God IS GOD! God knows EXACTLEY what he is doing. We don't TEST GOD, he tests US!!! We don't have to see HOW strong GOD is, the Bible already says HOW strong HE IS, He's THE ALMIGHTY, but God wants to see how strong WE ARE...and maybe he just wants to make you stronger!!! Sometimes we feel like God gave us a promise and we want to see if HE IS GOD ENOUGH to actually fulfil it.
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I know for me personally, there have been times in my life where I actually felt like I wanted God to fulfil his promise to me, JUST BECAUSE, I wanted to know that God keeps his promise. I want to know that I can trust you God, so I want you to keep your promise to me EVEN THO I really don't want what you promised to me, I just want you to keep your promise!!! That makes NO SENSE if you really think about it and YET that's what we do!!!
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It finally hit one day WHY it was soooo important to me that God would keep a specific promise. I realized that growing up, my dad would always make us kids promises and then he NEVER kept them, NEVER!!! (If your in need of a father's love I talk about that HERE!) Over and over again he would promise that he was going to change that he was going to be different, there was going to be peace in our home and over over again I would get my hopes up and over and over again my hopes would once again come crashing down in disappointment. Til finally one day in my early teens, I just stopped believing him. When he said he was going to do things, I just smiled sweetly and platonically nodded my but inside I was really thinking, YEAH RIGHT, this is going to be just like every other promise you have ever made.
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BUUUUT what I realized is that I was relating the broken promises of an earthly father with the promises of my heavenly father. When I finally saw this I had such clarity that I could trust fully in God, my heavenly father. I mean think about it, what child would be mad if their dad promised them that for their graduation they were going to get a $1000 and they heard that their WHOLE life and then when they FINALLY graduated their dad was like, well ACTUALLY instead of a $1000 I'm going to give you a brand new super expensive car...Okaaaaay that's the best description I have of a car...LOL...but is like all pink and glittery...hee, hee...OR you can choose to go on a trip to ANYWHERE In the world??? What child is going to be like, DAD! you broke your promise to me!!! You said you were going to give me $1000 buuuuut instead you gave me MORE????
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If you read in Hebrews 11 at the end it talks about all those that did not receive their promise from God because they received something greater. Think about that! Do you want your promise or do you want something GREATER than the promise??? I'm not going to put my God on trial! He knows what's best for ME!! He's my father, he has great things in store for me!!! He can give me More than just a promise he can give me something BETTER THAN THE PROMISE!!! (Okaaaaaaaaaaaay I got a little long-winded with this one folks but I just want to share with you what I got from out of that one section of the book...ENJOY IT!!! :)))
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This is my overall summary of the book...
The first couple of chapters, as she talks about her teenage years in high school. And I never needed a guy to make me feel loved. But I could understand when she was saying that she was longing for affections due to lack of a close relationship to her father!
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Another thing that I like is that she takes a strong stand about divorce. She was at one point talking to a man that she found out had been divorced. She says that she didn't know what all the Bible had to say on this subject so she began researching it and after searching the Bible she concluded that she could not continue to date this man according what she had found in reading God's word. It was GOOD to see in the world we're living in today, that someone was taking a STRONG stand on the matter.
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One thing I couldn't quite relate to was the fact that she struggled with feeling beautiful, by having a boyfriend. I've never struggled with A GUY needing to make me feel beautiful to know that I am...I'm jus sayin! LOL So one time towards the end of the book, she's been single for years now and she talks about a guy she was talking to on and off, they were just friends and he was praying about it and this dude is like totally up and down about her and finally he tells her sometimes I feel sparks and sometimes I don't? So she asks him, do you mean attraction? And he basically says, Yeah, I mean I know every girl WANTS to be beautiful, buuuut..." I was lke reading that and was like, OH NO!!! UH UH!!! If a guy ever said that to me...Psh!!! Out the door...LOLOL!!! Anywayz, she talks about how after that she once again began to struggle with her looks until God finally showed her something...if you want to find out...GET THE BOOK!!!
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She goes through story after story talking about how she thought this guy was for her and how he was just THE ONE and how every time it always failed. And how every time she thought it was going to happen and it never did. and then she talks about how her friends got married and her still being single and who ended up with who and when she ends her book, she's in her early 30's I and shes talking about how God showed her that all she really needs is him. Is it OK for her to still want to get married? Is it ok for her to still PRAY for a husband? Absolutely as long as she is seeking him and finding her fulfillment in him.
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Btw: My good friend Jen Lord and I searched the internet about the author of this book and we found out that right now, about two years after writing this book, SHE IS ENGAGED!!! Woooooohoooooo!!! Congrats our single sista!!! Go GIRRRRRRL!!!
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She met this man through trying to find bloggers with a lot or readers to do book reviews of her book on their blog to help promote and sell it!!! Soooooooooooo really what I got from this book is that I JUST NEED TO WRITE A BOOK FOR ALL US SINGLES, annnnnnnnnnnnnnd THEN i'll get married!!! ;) AHAHAHAHA!!! Juuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuust KIDDDDDING!!! What I got from this book was that I just NEED to trust in GOD and wait on HIM!!!
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♥Mary Frances :)
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