One Last Birthday 🥳 Gift 🎁

Soooooooo August 21st... Liz gave me the birthday 🥳 present 🎁 from their family, they’ve had it since before John died buuuuuuuut with everything going on obviously they didn’t have a chance to give it to me and she said John had specifically picked this out for my 40th birthday present!!! when she showed it to me I screamed and laughed and wanted to cry all at the same time!!!! He definitely 💯 knew his big sister!!!! Lol 😂 it’s very much A MARY GIFT 🎁 🥰 😂

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WHAT DO YOU THINK IT IS????

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Are you guessing???

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KEEP GUESSING!!!!

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Pastor guessed a husband....

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BUUUUUUUUT IT wasn't quite that amaaaaaZing...

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buuuuuuuuuuut ALMOST!!! ;)

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IT'S A...

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Selfies?! I THINK NOT!!!

Everyone always says I take a lot of selfies, BUUUUUUUUUUUT...I was thinking about it the other day and I had an amazing MARY THOUGHT!!! I came to the conclusion, that contrary to popular belief,  I ACTUALLY do NOT take a lot of selfies!!! Whenever I am at an event or we go to some national park or monument with my family or friends, I courteously offer, before we take a group picture, to take a picture of each family unit on their own. My brother and his wife and kids, my sister and her kids, my friends and their spouse and kids and everyone asks me if I want my own pic that they'll take... YOU KNOW WHY???

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BECAUSE, I'm my own family unit!!!! I am THE ONLY PERSON in my own family unit!!!! Therefore, every time I take a picture of myself, I'm actually taking a FAMILY PICTURE!!! Once I get married the selfies will END be much, much less!!! ;) 
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SELFIES???
 I THINK NOT!!! Let's get politically correct: if your single and you take pictures of yourself, the politically correct thing to say is NOT  selfies, it's family portraits...remember that guys...we live in a politically correct world lets not be sooooo negative!!! ;)))

Soooooooo I take a lot of selfies...

What can I say??? I'm a very FAMILY ORIENTED PERSON!!! 

Don't judge!!! Hee, hee!!! ;)

♥Mary Frances :)

Coolest compliment!!!

So I post this before and after picture of myself on my family Groupme and my brother gave me one of the coolest compliments everrrrr!!!

He said, referring to my before and after picture "Same Self-Confidence though, not very many people can say that!" And I thought, that's just about THE COOLEST COMPLIMENT I've gotten during my whole weight loss journey! No, no, THAT IS THE COOLEST COMPLIMENT I HAVE GOTTEN!!!  Although, I would HAVE to say, that I think what my brother ACTUALLY meant is "Same SELF-ESTEEM" Because self-esteem is overall how you view and value yourself as a person, self-confidence is how you feel in your ability to do something.  Because one of my biggest fears with weight loss surgery, which I will go into more details in another post, was that in the process of losing weight, I would ALSO LOSE ME!!! :,( 

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I talked HERE about my over all self-esteem from a legit mental health test I had to take before they started the weight loss journey process!!! The phsycholgist said he had NEVER had a client score as high as me..bahahahaaaa 

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For example, my confidence may be high when it comes to public speaking or writing because I KNOW that these are strong areas in my abilities, buuuut when it comes to math, my self-confidence may not be very high, not because I think lowly of myself as a person, BUUUUT because I know this is a weakness of mine, HOWEVERRR, self-confidence can improve with learning and studying...soooo if anyone out there wants to tutor me in math...HEEEEEEEY...LOL Anyways, soooo in certain areas, my self-confidence HAS gone up with weight loss when it comes to being able to wear certain clothes because they look better now and in physical activities because with weight loss has come increased ability to become better in physical activities!!! 

However, my SELF-CONFIDENCE, which is what my brother was ACTUALLY referring to, IS THE SAME!!! And TO ME that is THE COOLEST COMPLIMENT EVERRRRR!!! Because ultimately what that means is this, I'm STILL THE SAME ME! ME has NOT been lost in the midst of MY WEIGHT LOSS!!! Believe it or NOT, that was LITERALLY my biggest fear OVERALL with having weight loss surgery, I didn't want to LOSE ME...I LOVE BEING ME!!!

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I still know what I knew BEFORE weight loss, I am a child of God, my heart, my life, my being belongs to Him! I was made by Him, and FOR HIM! I am beautiful BECAUSE He created me in HIS IMAGE! I am HIS handiwork! His masterpiece! HIS DESIGN!!! My outward appearance may have changed, BUT WHO I AM HAS NOT, I am STILL God's girl...I am still my hilarious, warm-hearted, quirky, fun-loving SELF!!!

I AM SITLL MARY...

I AM STILL MAR BEAR!!! 

♥Mary Frances :)

Mom question!!!

I saw this shirt the other day and was like, Oooooh I NEED THAT!!! LOL

It reminded me of a question my mom asked me when she was kind of loopy from not having her dialysis, one of the nights before falling asleep she stopped me and asked me a question that SHE FELT was a VERY IMPORTANT!!!

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She goes, NOW MARY,

YOU DON'T SELL YOUR

SELFIES DO YOU????

I was like, UH, noooooo mom!!! She's like, OK GOOD!!! I was going to have a talk with you if you did!!! AHAHAHAHA!!! Only two thoughts came to my mind AFTER she asked that!!!

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1. ONLY MY MOM, would think that MY SELFIES would have any monetary$ value!!! Annnnd 2. IF I COULD SELL MY SELFIES, lets just say that I would be RICH!!! ($ORRY MOM;)

♥Mary Frances :)

Good news!!!

You guys, I have THE MOST AMAZING NEWS EVERRRR!!! I found out this past week something VERY IMPORTANT ABOUT MYSELF!!!

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 This past week I had to have a MENTAL examination for a medical weight loss thing I am in the process of doing. ANYWAYS, before you get started in the program they have to evaluate you with a Phsycological examination, (They be a lot of cray-crays out there ya know?!) you have to take this really, really, really, REALLY loooooooong test asking you like a MILLION questions!!!

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Welllll, when your done with the test it then gets graded on your answers and meanwhile your talking to a Phsycologist, and surprisingly he was really NICE and not at all weird! ANyways he was like lets look at your test results now, and he pulls out the paper and everything is divided into groups with bar graphs. He just looks at me and is like, WOW! And he points the FIRST bar on the graph and he goes, do you know what this one right here is for?

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 I'm like, noooo...he's like, this measures your self-confidence, HE's like, YOU have VERY GOOD self-confidence!!! He's like, most people that I see do NOT score that high! I was laughing! I'm like, yeah, I mean, like myself! (I mean really, what's NOT to like???;) I'm like, I mean, I've NEVER thought that I was ugly, I know I need to lose weight and they're are some things I need to work on buuuut, yeah, He's like, no That's GOOD!!!

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So I asked him what the other two really high bars were and he said that next one says that I am very moral and the third one says that I am very warm and nurturing person!!! So Self-confident, Moral,  warm and nurturing...AWWWWW ISN'T THAT SOOOOO MAR-BEARISH??? Purrrrrrrrrr!!!

Now, this is where THE GOOD NEWS COMES IN...Then he showed me this horizontal line that was going across a certain height of  of the graph and he said, now see this line here? So I'm like yeah, he's like, IF your self-confidence level had gone higher than this line that would have meant you were in THE DANGER ZONE!!! I'm like, Oh really? Like, that would mean I was like conceited? He was like, yes, but your not..."

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Annnnnd that's MY GOOD NEWS...

DID YOU ALL HEAR THAT???

Im NOT CONCEITED!!!

(Heeeeeeeeeeeeeeey!!!)

I have the MEDICAL PROOF saying I'm NOT conceited!!!

#takeMOREselfies 

♥Mary Frances :)

P.S. Btw: I also found out that I'm NOT mental!!!

Altho, those three things that I scored sooooo high in,

DO STOP, right below the cRaZy line...Hee, hee!!! ;)